Corporate Minds | Summer 2017
Overcoming Criticism
The way you react to constructive—and unconstructive—criticism speaks volumes about who you are, personally and professionally.
Rose Cammarata, CPA, CGMA
Senior Director/Assistant Controller, CDK Global Inc.
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In my spring column, I stressed the importance
of getting constructive feedback during
your performance review—feedback
that’s actionable and gives you the opportunity
to add value to the company and to
your career. Sometimes, though, constructive
feedback isn’t all that constructive.
Sometimes it isn’t actionable or productive.
Sometimes it’s just criticism.
It would be great if you never encountered
this, but at some point in your career you
may be on the receiving end of negative
criticism that leaves you without any idea
how to respond. It might come from a
manager, a peer, or a direct report, but
regardless of who it comes from, it’s likely
to leave you feeling uncomfortable, putting
it mildly. This is a really tough situation
to be in.
Yes, you can pretend you never heard it
and hope the situation “resolves” itself,
but, ultimately, you need to move past it in
a healthy way that doesn’t hinder your
future career prospects.
So what can you do?
FOCUS ON THE FUTURE
I won’t tell you that the criticism isn’t personal.
It will feel very personal and you
may immediately find yourself on the
defensive. That said, it’s best not to react in
the moment. I know that’s easier said than
done, but the way you react speaks volumes
about you and how you manage
conflict. Pause; listen with intent to understand,
and focus on the long-term impact
of any reaction you may have.
DIG INTO THE DETAILS
A well-respected mentor once shared with
me his philosophy on criticism: “Praise
doesn’t need details, but criticism is all in
the details.” Generalized criticism like,
“You do not communicate well,” is of little
value on its own. If details are lacking, you
have the right to ask for an example of a
situation that prompted the criticism. Try to
gather enough details to understand the
motivation behind the criticism and also to
determine the action you can take to
address it.
REMAIN AUTHENTIC
It’s natural to want to avoid conflicts and
quickly resolve any that do arise, particularly
in the workplace, but it won’t serve
you well in the long-run if your response
isn’t authentic. A colleague once shared
that her personality had been described as
“nice,” implying that she couldn’t execute
the tough decisions required by her role.
She didn’t respond by being less nice,
instead she excelled in her role by making
whatever decisions were necessary to succeed.
There are just some things that
shouldn’t be changed.
There also are some things that simply
can’t be changed. In the category of “It’s
not you, it’s me,” sometimes it really is the
proverbial “You.” There may be times
when you conclude that there’s nothing
you can do to address your criticisms. You
have to be willing to accept that sometimes
it just doesn’t work out, and that’s all
right. All you can ever really do is try to be
the best version of you.